Hey all. I planned on making a post with some updates. Wife and I are getting a long quite well BUT there is at times some tension between us.... Allow me to explain

wife and I would have a great day. When we have such days I feel even more confident in our sitch. Then our next interaction I expect it to go even better but then it seems like we took a step back rather than build on our previous interactions. This does cause tension but maybe only because I allow it to. I think I expect too much too soon. I know we are on wife's time but some times I think we are farther along then we actually are.

I admit I have slipped up a few times prompting wife to become defensive.

Wife has said things such as
- I am waitimg to see if you actually changed
- I dont want to make myself vulnerable and get hurt again, I have to see that you changed and know that I can trust you

There are many things my w won't talk about or feelings she won't express due to she feels it will make her vulnerable... I really hope retrouvaille helps.

In some aspects working toward reconcile has been tough. My w has,changed in some ways from the person I remember her being. so I am getting aquanted with these changes in her. I am not sure if this is due to w not fully opening herself up to me or if this is truly the new her. W has said MUCH of what she did and said in the past she felt like she was forced.

I am trying to stay focused and could certainly use some advise at this point from those who have reconciled. Tips, suggestions or what to expect....

Also I been feeling upset in way (cant think of the word I am looking for).....w's actions in the those 7 mo has aused me to hold some grudge toward her....how do I over come?

M: 27, W: 25
Together since: 01/31/00
M: 10/4/09 (8 Months)
ILBNILWY: 01/24/10
EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted).
Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10
Retrouvaille: 09/10/10