Yep- your WH can keep the letters and give to her later.

Good for you to start taking care of yourself.

He doesn't want the marriage, then he doesn't get the benefits of it which include "holding his letters" for your D! wtf?

And detaching from them does not mean we act like jerks or anything. We simply stop caring so much about what they think of us. Could it really be that simple?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004