The problem may not be so much that your husband is very HD but that he takes your rejection very personally. He sees it not as a problem of you lacking desire but as your lacking desire for him.
I think there is a lot of truth to that. I'm also an HD husband, and I was angry at first when my wife's libido vanished over the years. I took it personally as a judgement about me. Now that I realize it's just who she is now, I don't take it as "rejection". I just see it as problem instead of a rejection. So I feel frustration about the problem, but not anger towards her.
