Thanks FMV. I intend on haveing a calm, nonpressured talk with W. It's long overdue. Timing is everything and she's been working long hours and hasn't been in a good mood lately. I'm thinking this "We need to communicate better, you keep me at a distance emotionally and if you could tell me what I need to do that I wasn't giving you before I could work on it.This relationship will take some work and we can't just sweep this under the rug.We are both worth the effort it will take". We both had a copy of 5LL and I told her what my love language was but she never told me hers, at the time she wasn't done with the book yet.