Read Lola's threads about new man giving attention.
It only distracts from the work you HAVE to do.
Oh yes, I did at the beginning of this. And I talked to her and others privately about it and of course heard the same thing and knew that I was playing with fire...but of course I did it anyway. I don't regret it...I think I 'get' having to do the work alone better now that I realized that myself outside of the advice that I received...and ignored - sorry friends!
