Originally Posted By: Bobby
If she does leave the house do I not communicate at all unless it is about my daughter.


That depends on what you can handle.

Can you speak with her and not get upset? Can you not argue with her?

Why would you contact her? What would you communicate about?

If the answer to the first 2 questions is no. Then you need to detach and not communcate until you do.

The second set of questions is about how detached you are. If you still need to know what's going on.

or just to hear her voice, or just to share something with her...

Don't.

Give her space. Let her go. Live your life like she is never coming back.

I am not saying she won't. Just not right now.

Originally Posted By: Bobby
Do I need to set rules regarding dating


I assume you mean you? Well that's a tough one.

I would say that you have only just begun the healing process and your own journey

and until you are to a point that you have healed then you are only being unfair to anyone you would likely get involved with.

And until that time you will repeat the same dysfunction that got you here...

Also if you still are standing for your M it is probably not a good idea either for the same reason.

Originally Posted By: Bobby
if I have not been served papers should I go ahead and file for divorce. She has threatend me but to date no papers.


Do you want a divorce Bobby? If you do then file.

If you don't let her do it. Why help her do something you don't agree with?

Look you need to do some digging down inside because you have to answer some questions for yourself.

The ones up there ^^^^

This takes an enormous amout of courage, fortitude, patience, compassion, understanding, and humility.

And that is just for starters.

So

What kind of man do you want to be?

The one that got you here?

Or

A better man?

One that will lead you out of this and moving forward.

Your choice.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am