I'm so sorry that your D is so complicated! Maybe all D's are like this, I don't know. I hope you can get these last details ironed out.
Hopefully once that is done, you can really feel free to start your own new life. We know that you have done that already, of course--but I imagine without the constant weight of the D proceedings, you can feel a little lighter.
And, yes, H's L sounds a bit weird--no voice mail? Can your L do some sort of check on her? make sure she actually exists, and is a L?
Hang in there. Each day gets better, right? Even when there are set backs, over all each day is a tad bit better.
