Well we went to session 4 of the MC and it was not fun. She started off by saying that she wanted to seperate because I was trying to deny her the kids. I pulled out the emails that we sent to each other and read her the section where I told her I was going to talk to the kids. That didn't seem to make a difference. She was looking for an excuse and that was it. We talked somemore about her possible trip and she said that I didn't trust her and we couldn't have a relationship that didn't have trust. That was it. I have bent over backwards for her, given her space, stayed positive, ignored her OM texts, and tried to work things out in MC. She hasn't committed herself to us and I just let her know in plain english, that I knew she was still talking to him (she denied it), that she had photos of him on her cell phone (she denied that) and that I didn't believe because of a variety of 1/2 truths and lies. I told her that since we were in a safe place (with a neutral party present) that our kids had seen her looking at him (when a hockey uniform) and that I caught her in bed looking at him on her cell phone and doing something else at the same time. I have had it. She didn't deny it anymore and just looked down in her lap.
The MC asked her if she wanted to seperate to divorce. She said no just to think. He then asked her if she wanted to date. She said no. He then asked her if I could date. She said yes. He then asked her if I could have physical contact with another woman. She said yes. He then asked her if I could have sexual contact with another woman. She said yes. He looked at me and I told her to just be honest and admit the physical relationship because at this point I really don't care. I already know that something happened. She still wouldn't admit it. We both left the MC session drained emotionally and she went to look at condos to buy (not rent but buy--also at a price range that she couldn't afford).
She came home and told me that she couldn't afford the condo (what I told her earlier) and that she was looking at another one today that was cheaper. I told her that I didn't want a condo or the payments and that she should consider renting. She stated that it was a waste of money to rent. She said that if we reconcile, then we can rent it. I don't want to be a landlord. So now she is off looking at a condo.
She has developed a plan to buy a condo. She is using some inheritance money that was supposed to be for the kids college fund (according to her deceased mother) to make a down payment. She will let me keep the house. She wants to share the kids 50/50 and I said ok. But I work weekends, so she would like my mom to watch the
