I'm going to also have to navigate her unemployment. Money has become a sensitive topic. I'm going to have to put boundaries around money discussions, and work on being nonreactive and listen if she is respectful. Over dinner last night, she shared that the reason she left in 03' is because she wanted to have a child, and didn't see any prospects with me. She would have liked to be a stay-at-home mother. I was not aware of this at the time. I don't know how I would have responded if she raised the issue then. She also says that if I were to die, she would look for a man who can support her financially. She is weary of having to be mindful of money.
I tried to listen nonjudgmentally, and not take it personally. She seems to desire a higher family income than I do. I don't know how to solve this problem. I'm not willing to leave a job that I like; I make a modest, but respectful salary. CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
