Rob, I was hoping you would stop in. Thank you. I knew if you did you would bring a 2x4. I deserve it as I didn't listen. At the time she wasn't involved with anyone else but she's setting herself up for it now.
Ok, question for you. Do you think if I start to date at this point (now that W beat me to the punch), that it could still have the same effect on my W? If the answer if yes then I'm all in. I cannot leave any stone unturned. I still don't feel completely comfortable with it but who cares now, I want her back.
I don't like the effect her wanting to date is having on me at all.
I will say that I don't know for certain what the effect will be on YOUR wife, there are no absolutes in life but I'm pretty sure it will bring out some qualities in you that have been hidden/submerged for quite some time. That confident, funny, charming person may come out of you and you will start to feel better about this entire situation. You might get that spring back in your step. You may see this as being the best thing that could happen to you, you may evolve as a person and grow from this experience, a lot of things may happen because of this.
Does jealousy and fear of loss motivate a WAS to realize that they may be losing what they have? Yes, this does happen enough times to prove that this effect is more than coincidental. Will it work with your wife? No one can answer that. Depending on your situation and her specific mindset, she may have been searching for someone "new" for quite some time now and was never able to communicate that to you or understand it herself. It could be that nothing you do will bring her back. But I will say that dating others isn't to bring her back, it's to bring you back if you get what I'm saying, it's to bring those attractive masculine traits that you unknowingly possess to the foreground again because they've been dormant for quite some time. It's for you to realize that maybe this isn't your loss, maybe it's your wife's loss and maybe it isn't a lesson she will learn now, 6 months from now or ever.
