I think that is my issue... the "whatever it takes" ideal.
This is a terribly jaded stance to take (I know and I guess this brief conversation has given me something else to work on, lol!) but had no affair taken place nobody would have to worry about moving to this town where the job is. Childish outlook? Even I can admit, yes, it is. And maybe my own experience is clouding my ability to see CPC's situation with clear eyes but what is the balance between taking care of yourself and the "whatever it takes" for the marriage? It's a rhetorical question really.
So, looking at things the other way... CPC what are the prospects for employment if you don't make this move? If you stay put and find a lesser paying job is your W willing to step up and do more financially for the "greater good". Will you taking another job that pays less but keeps your "home base" protected add problems to the already delicate financial situation are you are in?
