cheated on, lied to, and now I am moving on

[BeingMe]

I have been reading through your thread, and just wanted to make a comment on something regarding S.

but I do it because S wants it

You shouldn't have to do something just because S wants it. Especially, if it is painful for you. S must learn eventually that he doesn't get everything he wants, that mommy isn't there to fulfill all his wishes and commands. You could politely and nicely tell him that mommy is busy and can't talk to daddy, or for him to just tell daddy "love you, bye", and put down the phone. Obviously, he doesn't understand adult R's, and just wants his two most-loved people in the world to be friends, but although you aren't best friends, you can show him that you always speak nicely to each other. Or, when STBXH calls, perhaps you can speak to him first a little, then hand the phone over and tell him if he asks, that you had already spoken to daddy.

Just a thought.