You and I are friends, right? If I told you I was dating you would be totally cool with it. Chances are you might even encourage me to date after being alone for almost three years. While you might care about my well being you really don't give a rat's ass about what I do because you have no vested interest in controlling the outcome.
See, your W has no vested interest in controlling the outcome but you do. Dating is not a tool to gain more control but it's more of a tool to learn how to let go of the need to control.
Honestly, your W may not care that you are dating because she has no desire to control anything you do. BUT (and there is always a but, lol!) dating might give you a new perspective in many, many ways. You might find out that what you thought was so great about your W really is a huge pain in your ass. It might ignite something in you that has been dead for a very long time. It might help you see how "normal" people approach a variety of situations. It might help you create new experiences that add deep insight to everything you thought you already knew.
I hesitate to say dating is a stepping stone but it does add many shades of gray. The LBS often gets very trapped in the "black and white" of our individual saga. What if you could blend the "black and white" and open up a whole new avenue you never knew existed? This avenue might very well help you build a new foundation that can change all parts of your life.
This is hurtful to hear I'm sure but your W is VERY detached from you. Give yourself the same gift.
