CD: Your other point about the internalization/resentment is right on. That's definitely why our M is where it is at the momeht.
There aren't really any specific issues to internalize at the moment - nothing's come up - to get into it over other than the "lounge" issue. I guess that's a good thing. I've been doing very well at GAL and being a pleasant person around the house, with kids esp. and even H without going overboard. I try and match whatever affection I get from him, basically - as Allen suggested.
It does bother me that we aren't discussing the R at all these days, so, I worry about that (things being further internalized). However, DR says not to bring it up to a WS, esp. one in MLC because they have to work through things themselves. H's unhappiness is not because of me even though he thinks it is. His feelings for me will return when he becomes satisfied with his own life and self, in my opinion.
Having said all of that, I like what you had to say about the 180 and asking him about the lounge deal. Part of the "new M" is fiscal responsibility from both of us...
