Nobody can't always say yes. Nobody can't always say no.
I understand being in a very deep and dark financial hole. It's distressing to say the least. Just be sure you are packing your schedule for the right reasons. Obviously nobody wants to carry debt around and making goals and plans to pay it off is admirable. If it's about the debt then it's about the debt. If it's about being too busy to say "yes" to your W so she fully feels the consequences of her decision then take a step back so you don't drop over dead.
You might find some benefit in reading MZ8's thread in the "newcomer" section. He is GREAT at GAL'ing and keeping busy but has had trouble detaching and releasing control and anger. He has kept so busy for the past year with his GAL adventures he now is sort of stuck with the same feelings he buried by keeping busy. We all could learn from his thread actually.
I guess what I am saying in a very garbled fashion is keep busy for the "right" reasons and not so you can tell your W no in the hopes it forced her to feel *something*.
Having somebody new in your life (generally speaking and IMO) isn't about what you can afford or not. It really is more about where YOU as an individual are.
