DBing while in MC

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Quote:

I told her that I was going dancing on Thursday night, and that I wanted her to come with me.


Better: "I'm going dancing on Thursday night; you're welcome to come, if you'd like." (see the difference?)

I see the difference and it's confusing.
the first one sounds like he's leading, taking control.

The second is giving her a decision.

Woman like both, right?

I'm I reading this wrong??