I guess what I would gently suggest you at least ponder is WHY you feel the need now to have your W feel consequences? IMO it's due to the dating profile. I mean really... your W had to be cajoled and coddled to VACUMN the house for a showing on a house she was desperate to be free from. You did not show her any strong consequences from the get go and I know you had your reasons but this sudden need to change pace *is* due to her dating and she will see that.
Your W had closure a long time ago. Like most WAS they spend months silently detaching before they even think about leaving. They detach in comfort (on their pace, usually in their own home and for a LONG time) and are very secure in their decision. The LBS is accepted to detach and accept on the WAS's command. Nobody likes being commanded so we hang on for dear life so we have control. Your W feels much different than you do. Honestly, your wife sounds like a big baby but her frustration that you have not detached is common. She is all set (like my H was) so the longer you take to get on board the deeper her frustration goes. You can't change that so you must do the work for you.
