I'm sure it was difficult for you to confide to your colleagues about your H. When I am asked I simply say "my H had an ongoing affair and chose to leave the marriage to pursue his R with his assistant". I usually don't offer additional explanation as that pretty much says it all. It's really easy to judge how somebody handles things (we all do it, it's not right of course) but deep down you know the deal so be proud of the path you took if you felt it was the best course of action for you and your son.
Zoobrew - well, I'm glad you are getting your ring back. If you had some fun and learned a few things about yourself then it was time well spent.
IR - sometimes it's not all about being easy going but more about the circumstances surrounding the friendship (IMO of course). I think if both parties are upfront about their intentions or where they are at early one can temper things accordingly. After all, it's certainly not productive to have "circular discussions" or hone in on small details when maybe the big picture is what matters. Sometimes people do the best they can based on where they are in life.
Sounds like you will have a busy autumn season, NM! The change of seasons can do wonders!
