Still have mixed feelings about confronting her about website. I think it's my business if she's looking to date while we're still married though. Should I even be concerned about pushing her further away at the moment? She wants to date OM. How much further away can she go?
Talked to some friends of mine today. One of my female friends suggested I just call W and ask her where we are. Other friend sort of agreed. Said I should tell her that after 19 years she could make an hour of her time for me. Tell her I know about the website and say if that's what she wants then there's nothing I can do.
You already know what your W will say. She has told you before, her actions are lining up with her words. You are trying to hold on to something that isn't there.
What would be more attractive, strong and confident?
You calling her and saying, "I know all about you looking on-line to date. Well if that's what you want then there is nothing I can do."
Or next time you talk say, "I heard you are out there in the dating world now. I'm glad for you, you look great and if that makes you happy then I am all for it."
If you are feeling froggy then add, "Maybe we can double date sometime." (Classic WAS script)
What would be better for you? Her mind is made up, how you handle it is up to you.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
