The "tactic" is a "fake it til you make it" but you are correct, my friend. It MUST become real if it is to be of any REAL value.
In reading 5LL's, I am trying to incorporate as much internally as I can. The same can be said of all my reading.
Your question allowed me to actually SEE that. What I mean is, like every other "fixer", my initial entry into DB was to "find the answer answer and fix it".
Magic Bullet Syndrome
What I can see NOW is that I am not viewing what I learn from the board and books as "tactics" for the sitch as much as "an appreciation as to WHY I need to make these things PART of me".
It's subtle but the right direction. I can see why I NEED to incorporate: Boundaries Values Respect Self-Respect My needs REAL love
-into me and ALL my R's. Business; family; friends, etc
This is beyond HER and about my healthy life. The only way she relates to this is that SHE needs to take this journey herself, too, AND if not for her I wouldn't be making this journey myself.
Lastly, MEA CULPA! You have wrongly pointed at PEI. Look further back in my thread and you'll see (before Steady's post) that I started the 'book' description.
