I understand your perpectives, Allen and Swimming.
I don't view it as a reward though. And I certainly didn't "start" with WOA's.
Once I set boundaries and she left the house (again, NOT the same sitch as Sunny), I could really detach. Most interaction was by text and the rare call.
With boundaries in place and the detachment (being firm on crap behavior, etc), the tone changed. That is when I began the WOA "sprinkles". And the change continues.
As always, just a suggestion and a personal choice by Sunny as to how she believes she will be best served.
Just something that has worked in my sitch.
And I still like the book. It can be "melty" in spots. But the theory is good.
Not a shrink either Allen. Just an 'angle" to look at.
