Trying to get closer to my wife has been going on for years now. Then she tells me turned to OM because I wasn't there for her.
So... I've got a few questions for you then.
If your communication patterns are more that of friends rather than intimate partners, how much of the real story about what she needs from you, do you think you've heard?
Have you initiated meaningful discussions with her about the separation, the EA, and about both your roles in the disconnection of your M? If so, how does she react?
I've had to initiate some pretty serious discussions with my H - who for would then dismiss, blame, change subjects, argue etc. in reaction. If you could tell us some of her typical responses, perhaps the folks here can come up with some strategies to help you circumvent any tactics she's using to avoid dealing with the problems, and maybe help bridge the distance that's still dividing you. Just a thought!
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
