Then you make them feel like that is the only thing that matters in the world. It is as simple as making someone feel that when they are around you they are important.
All people love this. Try it out. Practice on strangers. Really focus on them, bring the best out in them, and you get rewarded.
A book that I am re-visiting, What Got You Here, Won't get You There by Marshall Goldsmith, had this great story in it.
Quote:
A British acquaintance told me about a aging executive who could always be seen with the most beautiful women. It wasn't his looks or animal magnetism. He was short, jowly, overweight, bald and well into his seventies. But when my acquaintance asked one woman why she was so enthralled with this man, she answered,"He never takes his eyes off of me. Even if the Queen walked in, he wouldn't be distracted. He would still be devoting his full attention to me. That's hard to resist."
Hard to resist = catnip
I would recommend the book for anyone in business, leadership role or wants to see DB techniques used in other relationships.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
