Maybe her family and some of her friends don't know she's on this dating site?

I honestly don't know what she's told her family and friends about our M. I'm guessing she said that I didn't have the job, wasn't ambitious, was angry all of the time, but who knows? The only thing she ever told me during this separation was just the 5 things she told me the night she left. She said she was upset about no job, the house financial mess, that I was always angry, that I didn't like her family and that I smothered her. I still remember that speech like it was yesterday. That's all she's ever told me. I've worked hard to be better about those 5 things. I've told her this.

In our conversation about a month ago she got extremely angry with me and said she was just thinking I was starting to really change but she thinks I was being my old self. I listened and she calmed down. I realize know that she played me. She told me things I wanted to hear but she didn't mean them.

Yes, I imagine she is a better Dber than me. What's the saying? Whoever cares the least about the M is the one who controls it. She does a very good job acting "as if", I'll give her that.


M 38
WAW 36
Together 19 years
Married 12 years
Bomb/Separated Oct. 09
I love my wife
Sitch