No advice as to expose or not to her family or friends?
Expose what? She's on a dating site.
What has she told you, her family and friends about your M?
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I just got hit over the head with the worst news I can imagine.
Your STBXW is on a dating site is the worst news you can imagine? You are playing the victim here. Your W is a better DBer than you.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.