WAW - W moving out in 2 wks and wants annulment

[john28]

BB - I'm going to give you some solid advice because I was, and still am, in the same exact sitch as you. Exactly.

My W decided to leave on Jun 20. Said she was moving out July 25. That gave me a month. I tried everything to get her to stay, going to MC, doing super-chores, being super husband, doing everything. Yes, I did well, but I also screwed up some. Which, you will do the same in the next 2 weeks.

I was Mr. Control too. The root of our problems are my control issues, just like you. Let me guess, anything you ever did was never good enough for her, and growing up nothing you ever did was good enough for your father. Right? Ok. Listen.

You have to let her move out. She's checked out.

Just because she stays in the house means she's going to "come around". You can't pressure her into staying in the house. Anything you do to pressure her to stay just will push her further away.

You have to let her go. You HAVE to.

When you give her what she wants and don't put up a fight, you are no longer Mr. Control. You're Mr. BBalls. The nice wonderful guy that loves his W and would give her the stars and moon.

Remember this - By pressuring her to stay, or fighting for her to stay, you're only reaffirming that you're the person she doesn't want to be with, Mr. Control.

Take my advice. My W stayed 2 months after bomb day, and 1 month longer than she said she would. When she did finally move out, he was so sick of me that she left without even telling me. Don't make the same mistake.

She's going to move out anyways, unless SHE changes HER mind without ANY input from YOU.