Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

I'm confused as hell then. I didn't think there was any way that I had been pursuing her lately? I thought I was leading, taking care of things, not asking her for anything. I don't think I've told her or done anything lately for her to think that I hadn't let her go?

Couple things I have control over are not being the agent anymore and gaining some self respect for myself. Telling her that I'm filing the taxes on my own...she will have to pay a lot filing herself. Telling her that I'm no longer going to do everything and protect her from dealing with this mess. She can now take care of the house, banks, etc...I'm done.

Maybe I haven't truly detached or let her go to myself but I think I've acted like I have to her.

No advice as to expose or not to her family or friends? I'm now in the situation so many here are in and they are told to expose, tell her I won't live in an open marriage, etc. I know we're separated and saying some of these things might not have any effect but there's no advice here but to just be ok with her wanting to date and not saying anything about it? Are you saying that I should just give up? Yes, it's been many long months but doesn't this sometimes take at least a year of more in some cases for the WAW to come around?

Look, I know I must seem desperate in my posts this morning but I just got hit over the head with the worst news I can imagine. I just can't believe that I'm just supposed to be ok with this and sit on my hands.