Jealousy, can I make a suggestion? If you think it's an issue, and he won't agree to change it - let him go. Help him pack his bags. Make him a lunch to take with him and wish him the best of luck. I was married 16.5 years before the bomb. Know what? It started just like that. Secrecy. New friends. The denials.
Know what? He has no right to treat you like that. Let him go emotionally and physically. If he cannot give you the love you deserve willingly, then go find somebody who will.
It will hurt. But it is the stronger thing to do. If you don't, you'll be "forgiving" him for something he continues to do and that wouldn't be fair to either of you. Hold him accountable for his actions and if he won't change then let him go and don't look back. It's your best opportunity to get the love you want but you have to make it clear to him that it's either from him or somebody else.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
