Just before leaving work today I texted her if she wanted to go out to dinner tonight at the place we haven't been for a long time and she really likes it there. I thought that since every time we go it has either been her initiation or my "statement" that it is where I was going with or without her. I figured to throw in a nice invitation for a change.
= pursuing
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I replied "Do I need to run home?"
Stop asking to do things for her. Your wife can ask for help if she needs it.
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I learned from one of my sources that she has organized a party next friday night at her vacation house and invited some coworkers and "friends" from the "Pit of Deception" (the bar she disappears in). There is that one guy that I have kept an eye on for possible EA. I learned that some people have been asked to stay over but I don't know exactly who.
This combined with her staying up at night on the computer getting a finger workout while you sleep and not ML for over a year is not good. What intel do youy have?
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That I have a problem with. I am suppose to drop off 2 dogs in the middle of the week (T or W) and was invited to stay overnight. I don't like this party idea for several reasons but primarily I don't want to have my dogs in the middle of the party where they can easily be neglected or even get loose in a strange and isolated environment. And if there is anything sinister going on I want my "kids" not to be there.
Seriously you are worried about your dogs? The dogs can handle it. What kind of dogs are they?
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If she tells me I could express my concerns but if not then what? If I back off from my promise to drive up I need to explain why and the other 2 pups will still be there
That would make you look silly.
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I will try to make her tell me her detailed plans of who is staying there and when.
So you can approve?
You need to do some intel gathering, talk to a L and have a plan - how to let her go.
ps She can get you to jump any time she wants by telling you the dogs need you. Let her care for the dogs.
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