Welcome gbee. I have to leave for work, so I'll read your original thread this evening. You'll find a lot of sympathetic and wise people here, who will hit you upside the head if you need it, and hold your hand when you need it.

As PEI said, read the resources. They are a constant source of help to me and many others.

ME: 54
Him: 51
M: 20 years T: 21 years
OW/New wife: 36
Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36)
Bomb: March 4, 2010
He Filed: April 28, 2010
I Contested: May 1, 2010
Standing Down: 11/24/10
Divorced : 05/04/2011