I don't know how long an annullment takes, but you have to let her move out. Do not try to stop her. The separation may actually help. It will give her time to think about what she really wants. As long as you continue to pursue her, all she will think about is how to get away from you. She needs to be able to think about other things.
What happens to your stuff in an annullment? you have to split things somehow. Just go conu=sult with a lawyer right now, but maybe you don't have to retain one yet.
Don't help her with any separation, annullment or divorce paperwork or planning. Let her do it all. Just step back,give her space and play it cool You are fine withher leaving and you will be fine without her. That is what she needs to think. let her see the changes you are making, but don't tell her about them. Wait for her to come back to you. It is very likely that will happen and probably sooner than you think. Don't mess this up like I did in the beginning.
You can do this. Hang in there and keep us posted as to what is happening. Good Luck/.
You are getting some VERY good advice. And yes, I know it sounds counter-intuititive ... it is. And it is your best shot. Remember ... there are no guarentees. So, stack the odds in your favor, take the good advice and read the resources.
FWIW, it's not even about letting her move out, she is an adult and can choose that if she wants to. And right now, not only does she WANT to, she probably NEEDS to. Get out of her way. Your actions, the smallest consistent actions, are what are what matters. And honestly man, you are still trying to control the situation. Let it go.
Start really examining your control issues, not just the why, but the HOW. Right now you can't even see that you are still trying to control her, her decisions and the entire situation. But she can. I promise you that.
Keep reading the resources, and really think about the advice you are getting here.
Good luck! PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
