Need help with H's MLC and he wants D asap

[PEI]

Hi gbee!

Sorry to see that you are here ... but it is really is the best worst place to be.

I've read through your original thread and I have a couple of tips to offer, but first I want to stress how important it is to start reading, and then rereading, the MLC resources.

I would also suggest that you stop answering H's calls. You have to take care of yourself and protect yourself ... and the most important step, IMO, is detachment. We talk a lot about that over here and you'll need to remember that it is a process and it's damn hard. But necessary. Be kind to yourself with your expectations, this takes time. You will need an infinite amount of patience. And just when you think you've got none left, you'll need more.

Sweetie, this stuff is hard. But, believe it or not, you now have an opportunity. An opportunity to take your own journey, discover who Gbee REALLY is. You are going to come to understand a few truths ... but they can be hard to swallow.

You can NOT control this.
You did NOT cause this.
You did not break H and you can not fix him.
The only person/thing you can control is YOU.
YOU can CHOOSE happiness.


Tell us a bit about yourself and your M ... timeline, children, ages ... that sort of stuff ...

What are you going to do for YOU today? Are you taking care of yourself as was suggested in your other thread? Are you sleeping, eating properly, exercising?

So gbee, with all of that I am going to leave you with two questions ........ who are YOU? Are you who YOU truly want to be, with or without your H?

(((((hugs)))))
Peace
PEI