"Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do. Remember this always."
In my brain, I 'get' that this is how I can de-personalize my wife's outbursts. But I'm a big, blubbering mess when it comes to actually convincing myself, "Hey, don't take her threats personally. And, don't believe them." She makes these threats with such conviction when the alien is out in full force. It's tough to detach from that knowing my marriage, and our children's well being, is at stake.