New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

I called W tonight to ask her about the boys' first day back in school. I tried to call them but have been hitting their cell phone's voicemail. So I called W. She was guarded but not mean. She asked me for two specific things: if she could use the credit card to charge something. S7 broke his prescription glasses and needed a new pair right away.

Her second question was: " I need to tell you something else..." I have to admit I thought she would bring up divorce, refiling. I prepped myself mentally for what I thought she would say because of the long pause. I told myself I'd be OK regardless if she would mention divorce.

She paused a long time then said something completely different: S11 and S7 have been afraid to sleep on their own because I told them about a scary movie when we were together on FRI 13th...She said she didn't appreciate me scaring the boys. I admitted to it and said it was all bad judgement on my part and that I was sorry.

Again, no divorce or refiling for D talk from her...Hey, that was encouraging...I ended the conversation first and said good bye. She replied good bye as well. Lately, I 've been trying something new. Instead of going dark, I decided to call here and there to try to maybe become friends again. That's a 180 from not saying anything for the past few weeks. Trying something different. The conversation was not negative. Good sign?

JR