I'm like you, reality is setting in that I don't think my ex will be back either & I'm a lot further into this than you are! I'm sorry to tell you but it takes a long time. I don't know, maybe all these planets lining up or something has caused strange things to happen! I also think the fall has something to do with it, everything dying. It was Sept. 6th, 2007 that my ex walked in from work & said "I want a divorce" no explanation no nothing, I had no clue whatsoever that anything was wrong, so this is a VERY hard season for me, plus on Sept. 3rd 1994 my brother died, so again, very hard timing.
I also will defend my ex, so you are not the only one.
We will all bounce back, for sure! PMA's everyone!!!