Yes she is leading, and right now, the way things are I can only lead what is in front of me. S has already started school, and is settled in her house. As far as therapy, I need to get more involved in that, period.

She texted me on my way to C appt at 8, asked if I put anything in the attic, she could look herself but i said yep and asked if the kids could call me, since I only had 10 minutes. She replied why only 10 minutes? I said I am on my way to C and only have 10 mins. S calls from her phone and we talk for about 10 mins, I was on speaker, and he tried to hand the phone to W, and i told him I had to go and he can hang up the phone. After 20 mins in C session she starts texting me asking about finger nail clippers? then asked about one of our dogs vet appts, we have a 7 yr old akita who has bone cancer, I will probably have to put her down.

I did not respond to any of it since I was in C, she knew this. SO I decide not to and just head home. I get home and she texts again, Hello? so I reply Hi. She asked again about dogs appt, I said I didnt take her today will have to reschedule. She said if you have to put her down I think it is best not to tell the kids with everything else going on right now we have to keep positive things going around the kids, agreed? I just replied with a yes.

She said well let me know if you do put her down, Night!

I replied ok day!

That was the end of the convo, She was very snappy today with me and the kids, I overheard her being snappy when talking to S, and obviously her texts today were also that way. I did not inquire to her mood or why she was being this way, just letting her be.

Tomorrow Night I will have the kids take them to church for a back to school function, then they will spend the night with me. I need to pull away a bit, she saw some humor in me yesterday and is being crappy today. I have still been upbeat and have not been defensive or confrontational.

We are separated, she has filed, she has the kids how does one lead from this point? All I can truly do is GAL and do 180's go somewhat dark. I am leading my life, but it is hard to lead for the kids from this point?