I've gone back to your post from a few days ago when you had the talk. On that occassion WH said "+We can never go back to being together" and "He misses our relationship but the 'new' him just can't do that anymore".
OK, you did a good thing. The old M is over. There is no going back for either of you.
Dropping the rope means giving up all cares about how this is going to turn out and meaning it.
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369