FMV,He's either "trying to make things better in his own way," or jerking you around. Only you can decide which it is. And act on that.
Gardener, thank you for stopping by and offering your advice. I'm so sorry I missed this post earlier today.
I'm wondering if it's somewhere in the middle? I don't think it was malicious. He's a pretty covert guy. His pattern is to dodge issues to 'keep the peace' rather than deal with them up front. So, I'd say he figured going with me would be boring as h*ll but he didn't want to be the bad guy and start an argument, by saying it out loud. I've heard this "I'll go with you if you want me to" crap from him for years. You're right. I do have to act on it but I'm not sure how.
Originally Posted By: Gardener
FMV, you know by now that nobody can "make" you feel anything. You control that. ... But continually feeling like you have to defend who and what you are to the people in your life is something to tackle head on with your IC and...find your voice.
I know, I know... since my IC has been gone for the summer, I've slipped backwards into some very unhealthy patterns. I guess it wasn't very proactive of me, to not consider finding another to talk to, while she was gone.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
since my IC has been gone for the summer, I've slipped backwards into some very unhealthy patterns. I guess it wasn't very proactive of me, to not consider finding another to talk to, while she was gone.
