They came back from a motorcycle ride and came into our house I heard them speak for a minute and then hug and he left. My W was shocked to see me and startled that i knew she was out with him.
But nothing I heard said anything but "friends" so dont know if I am being paranoid but my gut hurts.
Uh uh. The fact that she concealed going on a bike ride w/ him and brought him into your own home without your knowledge (so disrespectful) of which you only found out by mistake is not right, Khudoo. As a woman, I will tell you I think there is something happening between them.
Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
If that's indeed the case, then my advice to you is drastically different. I think you should take the agreement and run.
Puppy is right. Take it and run. It's a great deal if you choose to go with it.
Did she ever tell you that she "didn't even find him attractive"?
No she never said that. She just said they were friends and she likes his company. There are about 5 of the bunch in work that are close but this guy stands out.
She never was one to say "He's not attractive" just to make me feel better.
Puppy, I do agree that something smells here but i am just not sure. Its hard to make concrete accusations without proof.
For the record, I never advised you to make accusations based upon what you have. Only to consider making your DECISIONS on what's pretty obvious to the rest of us.
Uh uh. The fact that she concealed going on a bike ride w/ him and brought him into your own home without your knowledge (so disrespectful) of which you only found out by mistake is not right, Khudoo. As a woman, I will tell you I think there is something happening between them.
Soleil
The fact that I called her strongly on that is what caused her email response above. Now to be fair I was never a jealous type of guy and if this had of happened when our R was good it would not have concerned me at all.
One thing is even though they had no idea that i was in the other room and could hear everything they said I didn't hear anything unusual or suspicious.
My problem with it this time was that our R is very fragile if existent and I already have a bad feeling about this guy. Under those circumstances I told her it was very disrespectful to both me and the kids. I just told her we will be separated soon enough and if she wanted to meet up with him do it somewhere else.
Thats when she said she will break off contact with him outside work but i don't believe her.
For the record, I never advised you to make accusations based upon what you have. Only to consider making your DECISIONS on what's pretty obvious to the rest of us.
At a MINIMUM, factoring it in.
Puppy
I know you didn't and what you say is correct and I do factor it in. Your advice to me ( and all advice ) on this whole sitch is much appreciated
Now to be fair I was never a jealous type of guy and if this had of happened when our R was good it would not have concerned me at all.
Well of course you weren't jealous, you had no reason to be. But the fact is, she broke your trust, even if you wer ein the next room. She didn't expect you to be, she didn't tell you she was bike-riding with him, and she certainly didn't tell you beforehand he was coming over to your marital home...
