I can live with sex once to twice a week, but barely. I really need to have sex with my wife two to three times a week to be truly happy. When her work or things get in the way of that, I have to mentally reach deep within myself to push through the time with joy and calmness.
My H is not capable of doing this. THank you both for your responses. THings blew up a little further today and his borderline traits have peeked out. Maybe it will blow over - maybe he'll go and file. I'm exhausted and have to decide what to do with a surprise pg at an old age. No, I don't feel old, but when you think about where you will be when the child is 10, 15, 20...it's old.
I appreciate the insight into the HD mind. I've read both of the books mentioned. I've tried a lot over the years. MC's too.
I'm a little angry but mostly hurt that he's doing this now, at this moment of crisis when I need support. It is very typical of his selfish thinking.
I've stayed because most of the time he's not like this. And I think he misses out the most by not dealing with his own issues. I've asked him to go to anger mgmt, and he said he would but it never happened.
I know I will not be rushing out to file for D. I can't control what he does, but I know in my heart I've given it my all - and then some.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
