trying to be patient

[FindingMyVoice]

There isn't any talk from either one of us about what happened. I don't know how to approach that.

When you say 'what happened', do you mean the separation? Or is there something else there? Sorry to ask, but you mentioned she was seeing someone while you and she were separated. Had she been seeing him prior to that?

Finally, why do you think there isn't any talk about what happened? Why are you both resisting discussing it? And, are either of you (or both) in any kind of counseling?

Sex...none. For a while I thought she was getting close, hugging daily, things were looking like they were going in the right direction.

Yah, that hurts I know. But honestly, I don't think you can expect that until a few other bridges are mended. Try not to take it personally. Just think of it as stepping stones. You'll get there, it's just going to take some time.

I just don't know how many more slaps(emotional)in the face I can take. The things she doesn't include me in is like she mentally doesn't admit that we are trying to make things work.

I'm thinking she's probably pretty confused right now Bobby. She likely wants one thing one minute, then another the next. It sounds like both of your emotions are pretty high right now; like you're both hurting a lot.