Get a plan together for both instances and serve the option without revealing the plans. Wait for the answer and then execute the corresponding plan.
Yes, lead, be decisive, think thru this.
Remember the question - What do you want? Answer - You want her to be happy. If she would be happier without you then so be it. If it means you work on things great. Either way here is the plan.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.