I'm back and looking for insight

[DumpedforMIL]

sandi2 knows best. and i couldn't agree with her more.

But, if the S carries out the bust correctly.....it should not appear as he/she is being vindictive. That's the key word for me. I worry that morebusting is done through venengence rather than letting parents, adult children, and a few close friends know the truth of why the MR is in trouble.

when newcomers post on the board, they are overcome with emotion. actions are emotion-based. in that state of mind, the exposure is driven by 'vindication' rather than letting a light in the dark secret of the WAS.

that's why i don't advise others. yes, i understand the hardline approach but is the person i'm advising ready for that? my approach is to work on the person first. get them out of that emotional turmoil and back to reality. and it is then when they can start doing the real work. the vets can take over from there.