One of the things you can do is change IMpertinent information, so as to throw them off the scent, but not in any meaningful way as it relates to getting good, on-target advice.
For example, if you were: Me: 45 W: 42 S13 & S8 Married 15yrs Together 18yrs
It really wouldn't change much, but it would help "hide" you.
Also:
- don't pick a username that easily identifies you, such as one that uses your real name, or includes a hobby or your location in it (ex. "John in AL" or "FishingGuy40").
- feel free to add an extra kid in there in your footer, LOL. If you have two sons, add a daughter. If you have 3 daughters, add a son.
- If you can, specifically throw out false information in your INITIAL POST. Anyone snooping for you here is going to look for that first post. Throwing in some false geographies, an extra kid, or a different (but related enough so as to get good advice) career can throw off a snooper!
- for god's sakes, do NOT use your spouse's or your kids' real names!!! You'd think this goes without saying, but some folks still do it, esp. if they're also posting in the alt. THIS IS AN OPEN, PUBLIC MESSAGE FORUM, and your spouse can simply Google your name, your kids' names, and maybe the word "divorce" and you'd be shocked at how often one of the first few returns you get are LINKS TO YOUR POSTS HERE!
If you do some of THESE things, you can then be more open about the relationship stuff, the convo details, etc. -- the PERTINENT stuff -- so as to get good, on-base advice.
Puppy
Every Newbie should read this before they ever decide to start posting.
Pup, you get the first ever 4 Shades salute
If you wanna be like James Bond, you gotta think like a double-not spy!
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs
