Hi Missher Know you are swamped today so I appreciate your time and input (not to minimize anyone elses)
Originally Posted By: Missher
No mysterious forces at work here, the forum is working just the way it is supposed to work and you and everyone else reading and posting here is benefiting.
I was referring more to 'the universe' as opposed to the board since there had been a lot of chatter about prdictability; positive effect of WOA's and my "love my wife comment' that drew tears. I was also talking about how it might be in my best interest if she DIDN'T come out of the fog just yet as I was NOT READY.
And here we are.
Originally Posted By: Missher
what will bring the Dam crashing down is not one single blow to the facade but a million little pin pricks that will cause little tiny cracks to form and the water will come seaping through. Until eventually the entire thing collapses.
I liked this visual. I suppose I was sudenly panicking that, since I'd had a few successes showing results, I worried I would lose an opportunity to keeping putting holes in with EVERY interaction. Unrealistic. And likely too high in EXPECTATION.
TIME......
Detachment.......
Consistency........
Originally Posted By: Missher
you are about to embark on a phase of this journey where you are going to start to see glimpses of your W again. In ways this is more difficult than it was in the beginning.....This will be your challenge moving forward.
Agreed. Aware of it as I can already feel it. Again, this goes back to "I'm not ready yet" And I know that. Despite Puppy's comment about "The Advanced Class", it is as you mentioned, only two months since I landed here and barely 5 weeks since the confirmation of A and subsequent exposure. I'm feeling the short time frame now and recognizing that I'm not ready for "The FINAL"
Originally Posted By: Missher
You are already seeing her starting to show some of the preliminary signs of cracking. Don't get excited, maintain absolutely ZERO expectations, around anything. I know you know these things but it is always good to hear them again, and again, and again, and again.......
Lather. Rinse. Repeat. Got it.
Re-focus Detach No expectations Boundaries Use brain NOT feelings TIME "Be still and watch the parade!"
