Newer Game- Moving Forward

[Puppy Dog Tails]

If you are feeling down come here, or just take a look over your shoulder......You came hear mid-June and it is mid August, just 2 very short months!!!!!

Yeah, well, this IS the "advanced" class . . .


Puppy

[CD Bear]

Thanks, Puppy.

I appreciate that "presumed" compliment.

[CD Bear]

Hi Missher
Know you are swamped today so I appreciate your time and input (not to minimize anyone elses)

No mysterious forces at work here, the forum is working just the way it is supposed to work and you and everyone else reading and posting here is benefiting.

I was referring more to 'the universe' as opposed to the board since there had been a lot of chatter about prdictability; positive effect of WOA's and my "love my wife comment' that drew tears. I was also talking about how it might be in my best interest if she DIDN'T come out of the fog just yet as I was NOT READY.

And here we are.

what will bring the Dam crashing down is not one single blow to the facade but a million little pin pricks that will cause little tiny cracks to form and the water will come seaping through. Until eventually the entire thing collapses.

I liked this visual. I suppose I was sudenly panicking that, since I'd had a few successes showing results, I worried I would lose an opportunity to keeping putting holes in with EVERY interaction. Unrealistic. And likely too high in EXPECTATION.

TIME......

Detachment.......

Consistency........

you are about to embark on a phase of this journey where you are going to start to see glimpses of your W again. In ways this is more difficult than it was in the beginning.....This will be your challenge moving forward.

Agreed. Aware of it as I can already feel it. Again, this goes back to "I'm not ready yet" And I know that. Despite Puppy's comment about "The Advanced Class", it is as you mentioned, only two months since I landed here and barely 5 weeks since the confirmation of A and subsequent exposure. I'm feeling the short time frame now and recognizing that I'm not ready for "The FINAL"

You are already seeing her starting to show some of the preliminary signs of cracking. Don't get excited, maintain absolutely ZERO expectations, around anything. I know you know these things but it is always good to hear them again, and again, and again, and again.......

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.
Got it.

Re-focus
Detach
No expectations
Boundaries
Use brain NOT feelings
TIME
"Be still and watch the parade!"

[CD Bear]

And we're back to text.

This time (after I waited some) I read it and it was about a vehicle since I mentioned that the truck had to go.

She asked me about how and why her dealership gave her two different prices on the same car. She described a full load version of what I had suggested.

I sent back "You know that answer. For thye same reason you don't want to work there anymore. As I said, I had already discussed the truck scenario with XXX for what I believe is the appropriate vehicle for the situation. But this is your call.

She sends "I agree. I just wanted to know the price difference. Sorry"

M: No need to apologize. It's your car and your decision. It is just my opinion if it were me.

W;OK

Weird.

[Wonka]

I was also talking about how it might be in my best interest if she DIDN'T come out of the fog just yet as I was NOT READY.

Will Robinson! Careful of the self-filfulling prophecy. Proper preparation prevents poor performance. Hence the pointers to look into useful nuggets throughout this site.

Nice exchange with W. What I find interesting about this recent development is that W is seeking your input on important matters--it is a pattern that is slowly emerging. This is where life experience trumps a 23-year old male STILL living with his relatives.

Chin up, dude!

[Wonka]

MHL:

How else can I say this CD......you draw a crowd!!!

You mean the Three Stooges Brigade?! (and we know who is Moe!)

[CD Bear]

Thanks, Wonka.

Just at home journalling trying to mind my "new self" and get comfy in the new skin.

Regarding the new exchanges, I noticed the "seeking input"; "looking for agreement" and "the rash of apologetic words and actions"

And I'm not trying to curse what appears to be an encouraging change. But I'm trying to be cognizant of my "Noobness" (relatively speaking) and my incomplete preparedness.

As always, I appreciate your perspective. Again, it's sometimes difficult to see the forest when you're standing in it.

Glad you liked the exchange. It's beginning to feel natural. Now need to transition to phone at some point-being that comfortable.

The only missing piece is WHERE is she living and with whom? Where is HE?

[Wonka]

The only missing piece is WHERE is she living and with whom? Where is HE?

Sit still and observe carefully, my friend. The rabbit will turn back to you and don't make any sudden moves.

[CD Bear]

I forgot that analogy. It immediately made me think of the squirrel one as well.

The "jittery, nervous squirrel" considering being hand fed.

Remain calm. Be still.

Thanks. REALLY needed that one.

Cause it doesn't really matter where he is. As long as I "out-OM'd the OM". He'll eventually be gone one way or the other.

It made me think of something else someone (sorry bout the nickel) wrote.

To paraphrase "there is no one more completely qualified to be her H right now than you" Let that work FOR me.

[steady]

Can't you let them go to voicemail, and then see what they are??
Puppy

That's what I do CD. Works like a charm. The only time I have a thing is if it's my S calling me, then I don't know its him.