I should have been a little clearer regarding the context of the calls today.
I had her sign some bank docs yesterday morning. The bank called me this morning as two pieces of her documentation from employers had two different SSN's (one digit difference) so they wanted to know which was correct. I gave them W's cell.
Then she called me about it. And now she was concerned (since she was doing her taxes as part of her tasks) that it migh cause problems. And then her mind floated to her passport (due in November) and our D's Education Savings Plan.
She was concerned that more than the one employer or government document had the wrong number.
I told her I'd pull her 2008 Assessment and give her that number. She should also call Svcs Cda and get a card so she had one and didn't have to rely on memory.
When I texted the number to her, she phoned again. Almost simultaneously to the text.
Could there also be "selfish reasons" to address this? Sure. Passport? Her potential Mexico trip rumor w/ OM. Banking? Credit rating confusion.
It can go either way.
But it's the calling rather than texting that alerts me to "something" happening/changing.
The two yesterday were similar. They start as on topic (she wanted to know if I was home so she could grab soms stuff) and the follow up after her vist was to let me know she was "clear" of the house.
Again, all of these calls could have been text as they had been for the 1st few months. Also, I do have a Vmail with somebody else ather dealership and I've been expecting a call back.
But I could just ignore calls from there I guess. Not appropriate for my business but I've missed other calls from other dealers.
Most importantly, it will allow me to stay detached; appear detached/dim; and let me check the validity/urgency/content before I respond and get drawn into the convo.
My fault. The changes have me taking the calls to see if I can learn or discover more changes.
I should leave it all alone. Thanks. I took my eye of the ball.
I had an interesting comment from someone on the alt. "She" found it curious that W wanted scrapbooking stuff. VERY emotional things. And most of the stuff here is about US.
Also found that she used that reason rather than the 200 dollars she was to put in the account- 1)she could have deposited it herself 2)I would have likely said "I'm at the park. Leave it with me"
She needed/wanted some sort of "connection/interaction" with the house and/or me personally.
Also found it interesting that the wedding dresses were picked up. Again, emotional.
However, it was also pointed out that, like Missherlove also stated, I MUST focus on me and my detachment. MAINTAIN IT!!! In fact, work to strengthen it because it will be tested very soon and often.
Thanks everyone. I wanted to get the clarity up first. I'll review what you all have sent that I haven't addressed here.
Thanks you for your continued assistance and advice.
