There still is attachment on both sides. So is it safe to say, if the attachment is still there, and I be the attractive fun loving guy, it can rekindle things?
It's never a good idea to assume or expect anything.
What I am getting at is that any changes you go through are for you only... because they will enable you to feel better about yourself and who you are. Take the focus off trying to manipulate her. Be a better man because it's the right thing to do.
As far as your wife goes, it's not so much about any hoops you jump through or contortions you twist yourself up into to please her.
There is attatchment. There may be more: her principles, her idea of motherhood, and so on that work in your favor.
But stop acting like a trained circus dog trying to impress the audience with new tricks. Become the charming, confident guy you can be, and let her work the rest out.
It's why we say protect yourself if you need to, but don't be an @ss about it. Think "Cary Grant".
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
