Originally Posted By: Ready2Change
I am MrMom 50% of the time. I am my kids role model. I make dinners, I do the laundry, I show them how to have fun. I take them food shopping. I make sure they get at least 3 baths a week. I let them pick out their clothes. I let them get dressed. I let them spend their money. I let them get dirty. I show them how to treat women well. I let them order their food when out....the list goes on and on.... We leave for good times on a Friday night and then come home Sunday night...they sleep, eat breakfast, get dressed, go to school. I parent different than MsR2C. Neither one of our styles are wrong, just different.

I am also MrSingle: Adult time is Friday night, Saturday night. Long romantic weekends dates start Friday afternoon and end Sunday afternoon.

Dan, Just understand I am just giving you choices on what is possible. What ever you decide is OK. Standing up to MsR2C was hard, but the right thing to do. She wanted me to walk away. She wanted me to be a weekend dad. She wanted to control me.....Did not happen.


Thanks R2C. That sounds like a pretty good life. My parenting style is much different than my W's also. I am more like you where I think you need to let the kids explore and do their own thing sometimes, keeping the reins looser as they get older. My W, on the other hand, does everything for the kids and worries constantly. She has turned my S into a big worrier too. He was fretting about a bee in the pool last night for gosh sakes! All throughout our M, including now, W believes she knows best and that her way is the only way to do things. Nobody has ever been good enough to take care of her kids, including me.

I told W and the mediator yesterday that "my kids needed to spend equal time with me because they needed to learn some independence and they are not getting it from W. She does everything for them." She also monitors their every move. Maybe I am a bit too lax, but there has to be a balance. The mediator asked W if she agreed with that statement and she actually said "Yes." I was kind of stunned!!!

Thanks for the good advice R2C. I can see a bit of me in you and I am sure that I will be fine whenever this all shakes out.