You are right. She does not mind treating me bad. I just don't care anymore. I will keep letting her think that she is going to prevail, and I will keep to my direction in moving forward and moving on.
I will live a good life when all is said and done.
Remember, for me, it is about my kids and what is best for them. They need me, and I will make sure to be there for them always.
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Well, she did finally give me a check today, and she has been making sure that there is food in the house. It is about time. She did give me some rice for dinner. I guess it is better than nothing I suppose. I felt it was a slap in the face.
I did not eat it or say anything. I gave it to my S.
If there is food in the house, why aren't you eating anything? Just make something and eat it. You don't need to wait for your W to GIVE you rice. Eat man, EAT!
What are you going to do with the money from the check?
Come on LSG. I know you are trying so hard, but it is time to take a stand. You are entitled to at least be able to LIVE.
You are right. She does not mind treating me bad. I just don't care anymore. I will keep letting her think that she is going to prevail, and I will keep to my direction in moving forward and moving on.
I will live a good life when all is said and done.
Remember, for me, it is about my kids and what is best for them. They need me, and I will make sure to be there for them always.
LSG,
You are going to be better for your kids "the better you are". So you have to take care of and sustain yourself. Its going to be better living a life that is fruitful for you, then eating the crap your wife is dishing.
I will pay a few payments on some credit cards, and I will save it for a place to live and food. It will not give me much, but I think I can make it. If I have a job, I should be okay. I have to be smart about this because it is not very much to do what I need. I am trying to find an inexpensive mobile home to live. I will sleep on the floor or a sofa, and give the kids a the bedroom for them. I will get them a kitten, and do my best. It is all I am able to do for now.
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I am having a burrito for lunch and whatever else I can find. I do not want W to try to have me give her the money for rent here or for anything else. I need to keep the stress level low for now if I have to be the doormat to do it. It is not what I want, but it is what I have to do. I need money for the future attorney fees for my next hearing.
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I'm sure you are leaving out some specifics of your sitch, but I agree with Dan. If there is food in the house, don't wait for her to offer you some. I don't want to read your mind, but don't feel guilty because she's paying for it. I hope I'm way off base and don't take it the wrong way.
For you to be able to take care of your kids, you must first take care of yourself. None of us here know exactly what you are going through on a day to day basis, we can only imagine from what you have told us. Eat, be strong in body and mind. Do not let her call the shots. I know you feel stuck and you are stuck in ways. Don't let her treat you like a dog. If a stray dog showed up at my house, I would treat it with more compassion than your W is treating you.
I understand you are putting your children first but if you and your W share a home (for now) why does she get to dictate who eats what? IMO that is nothing more than mental warfare.
Have you told your attny you plan to pay credit cards with the support funds? Before you do that ask if it is the best idea.
I do eat some things when W is at work just to survive. There is not usually too much here lately, so I don't eat that much either. Is there some guilt that I have? There is a level of guilt in everything I do at home. I feel it from what W has said and done. I feel it from my own thoughts on not being able to do more. I have a lot of feelings about my sitch and life at the moment. I hide eating or drinking anything from W because I just don't want to be a parasite or leech. I have to eat and take care of myself for the kids.
I don't live having spousal or child support. There is so much that makes me live and do some of the things I have done.
I have come to be able to live this way for now because it will not be forever.
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It is her money, so she can dictate what she wants according to her. I guess I feel that way too since I do not have a job. I just don't know anymore. I try not to think about it because it just does not change it. I am trying to change my circumstances, and I will continue to do my best.
My attorney was for a limited scope. The credit cards are not very much, and I need good credit to rent anywhere, so I have to do it.
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Well, "according" to your W it is also okay to neglect her own children and sleep with another man while she is married so I wouldn't put too much stock in her declarations.
Maybe if you change your mindset your circumstances will change with it.
